As we prepare to observe another Thanksgiving Day on Thursday, 22 November 2012, I find myself questioning the sincerity of people’s gratitude, including my own. I don’t mean that any of us is deliberately hypocritical in our thanksgiving but rather that we are so accustomed to expressing our gratitude for the sake of “religious correctness” that we often fall into the trap of automatic reflexive gratitude. We all claim to be thankful and may even frequently mention how thankful we are, but are we really? How can we ascertain how genuine we are in our giving of thanks? I’d like to offer a very simple exercise for us to use in testing the true depth and sincerity of our thanksgiving. I can almost guarantee that, no matter how thankful you thought you were, you almost certainly will be more thankful after seriously undertaking the following exercise.
First, make a list of all the people and things you value most. The obvious items are family, homes, personal possessions, occupations, and whatever else you may deem significant in your life.
Next, try to think the unthinkable. As difficult as it may be, try to imagine a terrible calamity striking every one of these items on your list and completely eliminating them from your life. One by one, as you try to imagine your life without each of these people and things, ask yourself how you would continue your life without them.
Finally, consider that it really is entirely possible that you could lose one or more of these people or things from your life through accident, disease, or natural disaster. Once it becomes a very real possibility to you that you could lose one or more of these precious people or things, your attitude of gratitude will become much more serious and sincere. You will begin to treat every one and every thing in your life with much more appreciation than previously. Practicing this exercise on a regular basis, not just on Thanksgiving Day each year, will help us reprioritize our priorities in life.
For some of you, this is not just an exercise; it is something you’ve already experienced. For you, therefore, you don’t have to imagine such a loss. Thus, you can use your past experience to help you be more grateful for those precious people and things you still have in your life. Nevertheless, I still encourage you to practice this exercise regularly.
Perhaps Alfred Lord Tennyson said it best, “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” I wish to be one of those who is genuine in my love and my gratitude. I’m fairly certain you feel the same. Let me challenge you during this Thanksgiving Season to take stock of what you have to be thankful for and look at those blessings through fresh eyes. Happy Thanksgiving!